enismirdalA Marvellous Light/A Restless Truth/A Power Unbound by Freya Marske - set (fairly relaxedly) in the early bit of the 20th century in England, aristocrats in waistcoats but also they have magic and lots of them are queer. Has some nice character arcs and interesting plot. The first and third are mostly m/m focused and the middle one is mostly f/f. Well paced and fun overall, and some interesting world building about how magic and class and culture intersect.
Veil us in Gold by Shepard Distasio - one of those books that stayed with me for some considerable time afterwards, and I really loved it. It's a sort of moderate-dark fantasy about found family. Lots of disabled and neurodivergent and queer and quite damaged characters but the little band at the centre are there for each other when it counts. Sequel due out soon and I am looking forward to it.
Under the Dragon Moon by Mawce Hanlin - a sort of urban fantasy, with a bit of fae stuff, some cool cultural cameos, lots of queer and neurodivergent characters but refreshingly doesn't involve them mostly quivering in a corner angsting. Also quite fun magical mythology and mechanics going on. Set in the south of the USA, which was quite different.
The Reanimator Mysteries - set (fairly relaxedly) in the first half of the twentieth century in the USA, and in accordance with my current genre cravings, is autistic queer fantasy romance with peril. Set around a sort of parallel paranormal investigative society who deal with magical crimes and happenings, but also features found family, a lavender marriage, and storytelling where the characters do actually stop to sleep and eat and change their clothes.
The Chronicles of Ixia series by Maria V. Snyder - not actually as queer or neurodivergent as the others, but rather fun fantasy with some interesting worldbuilding where magic is considered basically heretical against an authoritarian regime that manages to be interestingly morally-grey at times. Good strong and interesting female lead. I do like a bit of spies and intrigue.
I've read lots of other stuff, but those are the ones that I found most rewarding. The other honourable mention might be the Chameleon Moon books by RoAnna Sylver.